When we are trying to change our behavior or mindset we have a time period where we freak out. We don’t have enough coping tools in our toolbox to make changes even if we desperately want to make them. If people just tell us what not to do, we feel lost and desperately want help to know what to do instead.
Reflecting feelings is valuable, but we cannot always stop there. Often we have to move on to holding people accountable through boundaries. Continue reading
Reflecting feelings is the most valuable interpersonal skill I’ve learned. I first learned of its value when I was developing my Gentle Parenting toolbox. I was continually amazed at how much more quickly I could defuse my children’s Big Feelings simply by giving them the words to describe their intense feelings. Continue reading
I can love her enough to hold her to a higher standard than her base desires would have her pursue. Continue reading
God created us, God loves us, God allows us to sin, God provides means of salvation through Christ, but he never makes us do his will. He always gives us a choice. Our omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent God allows us to choose our way. Can I do any less for my neighbors? Continue reading
I strongly suspect that my son’s preschool teacher thinks I’m a slacker. Because I forgot when it was picture day. And I didn’t know he was supposed to wear his Halloween costume this week. And I didn’t know that he … Continue reading
Oh, my. The FYI (If You’re a Teenaged Girl) post generated lots of discussion on Facebook and in forums in which I participate. As a fellow small-scale blogger I’m incredibly sympathetic to writing something, inserting pictures (actually inserting pictures seems … Continue reading